On fear

by ~jenniferlynn on October 2, 2015

in inspiration, Me

Well hello… life.

I miss my happy little corner of the internet, but as much as I plan on sitting down and taking the time to write, days, weeks, MONTHS go by.. and here I am.

No major explanation. Just shifted priorities.

It’s funny; I used to stress out almost daily checking out my blog stats. Where did my traffic come from, who pinned what post, how many likes I had on Facebook, what new followers I had on instagram.

And then I ended up in a 9-5 that basically has sucked away 8 hours social media time I formerly had.. Gone are the days of taking the first two hours of my day reading and sharing blog posts, scheduling tweets and promoting my own pages. No more 100+ tweets a day, and engaging with all of my readers, while networking to try to find new blogs. You can find me a tad more active on my Facebook.

But,ย here I am. Ready, and prioritizing my chance to write, pushing aside the 12 draft posts that I have started and restarted and never finished.

This post is inspired by the Girls Gone WOD podcast, as today they were talking about fear, sharing their own and sharing some of their listeners’. And if you were to ask me six months ago what I was afraid of – I could give you a laundry list.

Fear of failure. Fear of disappointment. Fear of being in a crowded room and not knowing anyone. Fear of meeting new people. Fear of staking a claim and going for it. Fear of what others thought. Fear of missing a workout. Fear of not eating the right things. Fear of not being able to let go of things. Fear that I can’t write a blog post that I can be happy with without taking 8 hours to review, revise, or rewrite (yep – just about every prior post goes like that).

The past six months have been pretty spectacular for me (almost lining up with the past four and a half months of leaving my last job).

But what stands out the most out of all of this time – is that I have changed, and I don’t fear much.

I have developed this confidence from the inside (whereas Crossfit has definitely helped confidence from the outside). I have put myself out there, branched out of my comfort zone more times than I can count, and on the other side of it – I realize there really isn’t that much to be afraid of.

You'll never know what you can do until you actually get out there and do it.

 

Many times the fear that people have it solely due to their mindset, and my mindset has shifted tremendously recently because I know that if I am going to do what I was put here to do; if I am going to pursue my passion and do whatever it takes to get me there; if I am going to strive to do what makes me happy and fulfilled – I can’t be fearful of any outcomes.

I have been reading Jack Canfield’s Success Principles. I almost want to tell you to just read it and then come back and tell me what you think. Seriously, life changing and if you have any doubt in your mind about where you are or where you are going or any sort of ‘but I can’t..’ or ‘I could never..’ or ‘that won’t ever happen to me..’, you need this in your life.

It is full of stories of people who set their minds to doing something – and did it, despite any circumstances, in spite of anyone telling them they couldn’t, or being rejected hundreds of times.

What if we just all took a step back and let go of our fears?

Do the thing that scares you.

Voluntarily put yourself into positions that make you awkward and uncomfortable and.. make it out alive.

As someone who is really introverted and have been called socially awkward, I have far surpassed my comfort zone recently. I left my job of six years to take a not-so-secure contract position elsewhere.

I did acro-yoga.

Me and my mini-me started a new business venture (which, at first, I was hesitant to talk about, but now I want to tell everyone!).

Me and my mini me ๐Ÿ’š

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I patiently rehabbed my shoulder.. and learned a new movement.

I traveled out-of-state (alone)ย and stayed with a houseful of outgoing strangers, where I proceeded toย stalk my #instacrush. I attended multiple networking events with roomfuls of people I never met. I worked a few vendor booths at local fairs and events.

I signed up for Crossfit Team Series.

And it’s silly to think now that I was scared of these things.

I honestly can say there is hardly anything at all that scares me that is within my control.

Sure, I fear something happening to a close family member or to my dog. And I’ll always have a strange irrational fear of aliens, ghosts, and chemical warfare..

But being fearful of things that can be changed solely by changing your mind? There is no reason for it. Really ask yourself – what is the worst that can happen?

You are in control of what you do.

Your turn..
When was the last time you did something outside of your comfort zone?
What is something that scares you?
Do you have any irrational fears?

Jen @ Chase the Red Grape October 4, 2015 at 11:14 pm

Love this post… Pushing yourself outwith that zone is so scary. My husband and I 2 months ago left our home in Scotland and moved to the other side of the world, Australia! David transferred with his work and now we are starting all afresh in a new place with no friends or family near by. It’s terrifying but everything so far has been so wonderful!
Now I just need to figure out what I want to do here! I recently got my health coach certification but I don’t know if I want to set up my own business and in what path I want to take with that. It’s pretty overwhelming but I just have to find that courage!
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~jenniferlynn October 5, 2015 at 8:53 pm

Jen that is awesome!!

I have been horrible at keeping up with blogs, but I am so excited for you! The awesome part about that too, is that no one there knows anything so you have a choice to be whoever you want to be!

Kait October 5, 2015 at 1:35 pm

From one introvert to another, awesome job stepping outside your comfort zone. I know how hard that can be!
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~jenniferlynn October 5, 2015 at 8:53 pm

Thanks, Kait!!

Big dreams – gotta step outside every once in awhile!! (Then retreat under the covers the rest of the week… hehe).

towicrossfit November 16, 2015 at 12:21 pm

Loving article, its just to convert people to a healthy life. In life man changes his priorities, but at end 1st priority is always Health.good job
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cody November 28, 2015 at 5:21 am

Way to get out there. I’m impressed at your willingness to push yourself in so many different ways. Physically, socially, athletically, etc. Keep it up!
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Jonny Middleton December 8, 2015 at 11:04 pm

Everyone has fear. Fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of discomfort, etc…

One of the biggest differences between the successful and the failures is a willingness to face and overcome those fears. You aren’t weak because you have fears, you’re only weak if you let them control you.

Alena January 10, 2016 at 3:19 am

Nice article, Thanks for sharing. We know health is wealth. After reading your article now every women become health conscious and they are motivated to do exercise.
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Nicole January 16, 2016 at 12:35 pm

Hi! Totally love this post. I was doing crossfit for some time last year but stopped because my coach left (or rather ditched) and haven’t been back since. I’m really skinny and so have always had issues going into a box with people telling me how dangerous it might be or to come back when I’m slightly stronger. Reading this post, however, is a good reminder that people are always going to say things and what is “stronger” anyway? It’s a process. And I have to face my fears of people’s comments, fesr of failure, etc if I want to achieve those goals. There’s so much more I want to say but just wanted to encourage Yiu in your journey and to let you know you’re a very big inspiration ๐Ÿ™‚ hope to connect sometime!

Megan March 6, 2016 at 4:16 pm

Although I am not into Crossfit whatsoever, I am a lifter. As a lifter I do know how much confidence it takes to be able to go out every day in front of others at the gym and basically – DO YOU! Your inspiring words are heard ๐Ÿ™‚ Keep up the great work!
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~jenniferlynn April 7, 2016 at 10:44 am

Thank you so much for the comment, Megan!! <3 Keep lifting, girl!

Andy August 10, 2016 at 10:32 pm

Thank you for this post. It is exactly what I needed to hear. This last couple of days, I have been wallowing in irrational fears that my new business will not succeed, when all the current signs point to a booming success in the future. It completely doesn’t make sense, yet my mind keeps holding on to that fear. What’s the worst thing that can happen? That I’ll become a complete failure, but the bare and honest truth is that everything is going well. I needed that good kick in the butt to remind me I’m doing well. ๐Ÿ™‚

~jenniferlynn August 10, 2016 at 10:42 pm

Thanks for reading, Andy! Would love to connect on Facebook! You can search Jennifer Lynn Hudy! ๐Ÿ˜€

~jenniferlynn August 24, 2016 at 11:48 am

You can do anything but can’t do everything.. Good luck!

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